Friday, January 29, 2016

Got Questions?

Let's get this blog going! In order for me to give advice, I need you to write in some questions! Whats on your mind today? Which relationships are you confused about? Mom? Dad? Employer? Roommate? Pet? Bus driver? Professor? Submit your relationship queries or comment below, and I will attempt to give you an answer.

2 comments:

  1. Judye, just shortly after I started a new relationship, I found myself on the receiving end of yelling, swearing, and name-calling. Should I take a clue and head for the fucking hills, or should I see this as a wonderful opportunity to meet my needs to make this person's life more wonderful? Just wondering!

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  2. Dear Mr. Puppovich,
    My answer is neither run for the hills nor be delighted with the opportunity. I would let her know how this made you feel, and be CURIOUS about what she has to say. If she can "hear" you and is honestly apologetic, that is a good sign. In any case, give it a little more time and observe your interactions with her closely. If this turns out to be an on-going pattern, I would let her know you care about her but are leaving to protect yourself from this kind of abuse. And leave. However, give her a chance to feel the pain of the loss, and if she is sad and CURIOUS about her own behavior, you may have something to learn about yourself from the relationship if you hang in for a while.

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